One of the most interesting things about our modern age is being able to see into the lives of people that we admire or are inspired by. It is easier than ever to keep track of what everyone is doing, from friends to celebrities. As fun as it is to be able to see what everyone else is up to, it's important to remember that we're usually only seeing highlight reels.
I find myself constantly comparing myself and what I'm doing to everyone I see on Twitter. I listen to podcasts, like the Tim Ferriss Show, and end up trying to match everything that I hear these wildly successful people do. Who doesn't get on Instagram and immediately feel like they aren't adventurous enough and aren't doing enough exciting things? I find that the more I pay attention to what everyone else is doing the less happy I am.
I believe that there is great value in cultivating a selective ignorance as to what other people are doing. This doesn't mean being rude, it doesn't mean not caring, and it doesn't mean that you are neglectful of your relationships. It does, however, mean that you are careful about what and who you pay attention to. Cultivating a selective ignorance means intentionally filtering what and how much you let in, especially in terms of social media.
There's no right way to cultivate a selective ignorance as to what other people are up to but here are some of the tactics that have helped me :
Always remember that social media is comprised of people's curated highlights and doesn't represent reality
When people share opinions and tips, especially on Twitter, remember that their thoughts are shaped by their own backgrounds and that opinions are not facts
Filter, block, and mute mercilessly; if it brings negativity into your life, cut it out
Step away from being connected every once in a while and make sure you are doing things because you want to and not because it'll look good on social media
Only you can be you, so do it the best that you can.
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